Life doesn’t wait to ask questions. Sometimes, the minute we open our eyes, we’re faced with choices that feel heavy. Should I call out sick today? Should I say yes to this date? Is this job really for me? We try to be discerning. We want to believe we’re hearing from God. But let’s be honest—most of us wonder if we’re really hearing from Him for sure. Can we be certain? His Word tells us the answer.
I ran into a good friend while grocery shopping last week, and we ended up having one of those real, unfiltered conversations in the middle of the produce aisle. She opened up about a recent breakup—her relationship of three years ended a few months ago. What really hit me was what she said next. Her granddaughter had just come home from college and casually asked, “Grandma, why didn’t you two ever get married?” My friend looked at me and said, “Kim, I couldn’t even answer her. I was embarrassed. I had told my whole family that God told me he was my future husband.”
Whew. That’s the part we rarely talk about—the aftermath of believing we heard from God, and then the story doesn’t play out the way we expected. It shakes our confidence, not just in ourselves but sometimes even in how we hear from Him. The reality is, when we step into relationships, opportunities, or major decisions, we’re seeing things through limited vision. Like the Apostle Paul said in 1 Corinthians 13:12, “Now we see things imperfectly, like puzzling reflections in a mirror…” We see in part. We discern in part. And sometimes that part isn’t enough to protect us from disappointment.
But here’s the good news: the Holy Spirit sees with perfect clarity. And if we lean into him—and not our emotions, desires, and timelines—he will guide us into all truth, as Jesus Christ tells us in John 16:13. That means we don’t have to stumble through the fog of uncertainty alone. We can lean on him and have confidence that his guidance will never make us ashamed or leave us hanging.
Our part is to make sure we’re guarding our hearts and minds with God’s truth. 2 Corinthians 10:5 (NLT) says, “We destroy every proud obstacle that keeps people from knowing God. We capture their rebellious thoughts and teach them to obey Christ.” Our minds love to run wild with assumptions and anxious thoughts, but we can’t be roaming all over the place in our heads. The Word teaches us to reign those thoughts in and filter them through the lens of Christ.
We have to be real about something that’s not always easy to admit out loud: sometimes, a woman truly believes she’s heard God say, “That’s your husband.” And she steps forward with faith—real faith—believing that word. She holds it close with hope, trust, and expectation. She builds her prayers around it. Makes life decisions with that promise in mind. But then… things start unraveling. Maybe slowly, maybe all at once. And she finds herself face to face with something she didn’t see coming—pain, disappointment, even heartbreak.
The man she believed was the one doesn’t reflect the character she expected. He might be emotionally unavailable, spiritually immature, or simply not ready for the kind of covenant love that marriage demands. And in that space of heartbreak, real questions start rising: Did I hear God wrong? Did He set me up? Is this a punishment?
James 1:13 (NLT) reminds us of a critical truth that speaks straight to that kind of confusion: “And remember, when you are being tempted, do not say, ‘God is tempting me.’ God is never tempted to do wrong, and he never tempts anyone else.” Translation? God doesn’t play with our hearts. He doesn’t lead us into pain to teach us a lesson. He’s not the author of confusion or manipulation. That’s not His heart, and it’s not His nature.
Seeing everything with perfect clarity means that if a woman finds herself heartbroken or disillusioned, she should know: God did not send that man to punish her. He is not cruel or careless with His daughters. Instead, He invites her back to His heart, where truth, peace, and restoration are always waiting.
We all make mistakes. And we start calling it God when it may just be us. That doesn’t make you foolish. It doesn’t mean you don’t know His voice. It means you’re human. We all get it wrong sometimes. But even in those missteps, God doesn’t leave us stuck. He brings grace. He brings clarity. He helps us unpack what happened without shame. He walks us through the healing and grows our discernment in the process.
So no, sis—God didn’t trick you. He’s not punishing you. He’s loving you through it. And the beauty of walking with the Holy Spirit is that He doesn’t leave you in the fog. He brings clarity. Not just about the relationship, but about you—your patterns, your heart, your growth. He gently pulls back the layers and helps you see what you couldn’t before. He teaches you how to hear God’s voice more clearly, how to separate your desires from His direction, and how to move forward with wisdom and peace. The Spirit doesn’t just speak truth—He leads you into it. And in time, what felt like confusion will become clarity, what broke you will bless you, and what you thought was a misstep will be a marker of how deeply God loves you and how faithfully He leads. ■
Scripture quotations marked (NLT) are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright © 1996. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Wheaton, Illinois 60189. All rights reserved.
“Seeing Everything with Perfect Clarity”, written by Kim Times, edited by Reverend Fran Mack and KLizzie for Sundie Morning Sistas ©2025. All rights reserved. All done to the glory of God through Jesus Christ, our Lord! SMS is dedicated to inspiring and encouraging Christian Women through the Word of God.