James 3:17(NLT)
“But the wisdom from above is first of all pure. It is also peace loving, gentle at all times, and willing to yield to others. It is full of mercy and good deeds. It shows no favoritism and is always sincere.”
I visited with a dear friend a while ago and she had just received a dozen roses from a gentleman she has feelings for. They’ve known each other for many years and have tried to date one another but she won’t chance her heart being broken. She told me that “He cheated on his first wife, and I believe he has a history of not being faithful in relationships.” This kind of scrutiny is understood by many that are contemplating whether they should allow a current relationship to deepen. No doubt my friend has been watching this man’s behavior for some time. Now she is convinced that things are not adding up, and the situation isn’t going to yield the kind of marriage she has prayed to receive.
Couples that are beginning to seriously date have an opportunity to examine their relationships more closely. It’s important to seize that opportunity and be honest about whether the relationship warrants the continued investment of time and emotional resources.
If you’ve felt the sting of loneliness, and you’re finally dating someone that seems happy to be with you, releasing this person can be very challenging. They would be happy to continue the relationship, but you’re hearing a voice in your head. It’s telling you to pump the breaks. You must realize that it’s often extremely wise to listen to that voice.
Proverbs 4:7(NKJV) tells us, “Wisdom is the principal thing; Therefore get wisdom. And in all your getting, get understanding.” God gives us the priority list here for Godliness. We must be wise about the choices we make. Everyone that presents us with the opportunity for companionship isn’t necessarily the right fit for our lives. Our goal and mission in life is to be an ambassador for Christ, to do the things in our sojourn on earth that the Father has charged us to do. He sends us help with this. He sends a person that will not hinder our labor for the Lord but will aide it. So, it is extremely important that we seek God when it comes to choosing the right person for our lives, because He knows exactly who this individual is.
James 1:5(NLT) states, “If you need wisdom, ask our generous God, and he will give it to you. He will not rebuke you for asking.” This is priceless! We desperately need wisdom to begin a relationship that will lead to the marriage God desires for us. We must humbly seek His direction, and then we must humble ourselves under His guidance. He has promised to lead, guide, and direct us, and He always keeps His Word.
We are living in perilous times, and the devil is busy. Some of the people we meet seem nice, but they later allow themselves to be used by the devil against us. We should want to avoid this kind of heartache and chaos. God instructs us to lay the situation before Him and ask Him for the wisdom to discern the right decision. God wants us to be wise and committed to walk in His wisdom, so that we can remain blessed and covered under His provision and care.
James 1:14(NLT) tells us, “Temptation comes from our own desires, which entice us and drag us away.” Sometimes we desire to be partnered so bad that we are tempted and enticed by someone that looks the part, but really will be used to separate us from the true blessing of our lives. We must be extremely careful about this. Sometimes it takes us a bit longer in the relationship to recognize we’re dating a person that God did not send to be our spouse. If that is the case, we should release this person in the peace of God. They may have helped us prove to ourselves that our hearts are open to love, but they also showed us that our eyes are wide open too. We must be strong and wise enough to let go and continue to trust God as He prepares us for what He has in store. ■
Scripture taken from the New King James Version. Copyright © 1982 by Thomas Nelson, Inc. Used by permission. All rights reserved.
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