Hebrews 11:6 (NKJV)
“But without faith it is impossible to please Him, for he who comes to God must believe that He is, and that He is a rewarder of those who diligently seek Him.”
Most of us have something we’re believing God for. For some, it’s a godly husband. For others, it’s healing, financial stability, restored relationships, or a clearer sense of purpose. We bring those desires before the Lord because He invites us to. He is a good Father, and He delights in blessing His children. As Hebrews 11:6 tells us, He rewards those who diligently seek Him.
But what does it really mean to diligently seek God? What does a life of faith actually look like? How do we demonstrate that our hearts are pursuing Him more than the blessings we’re asking Him to give?
Faith believes God will do what He has promised. But faith is never an excuse to ignore the work God is doing inside us while we wait. Sometimes we’re so focused on what we’re asking God to bring into our lives that we forget there’s an important question we must answer too: Are you becoming what you’re praying for?
The prophet Samuel answered that question centuries ago. 1 Samuel 15:22 (NLT) says, “What is more pleasing to the LORD: your burnt offerings and sacrifices or your obedience to his voice? Listen! Obedience is better than sacrifice, and submission is better than offering the fat of rams.” God isn’t impressed by religious activity when our hearts remain unchanged. He desires willing obedience that flows from a genuine love for Him. As we surrender to the work of the Holy Spirit, He develops discipline, honesty, humility, kindness, and integrity within us. That’s the kind of beauty He produces from the inside out.
I recently watched this principle unfold in a relationship, and it reminded me how quickly our character is revealed when things stop feeling easy.
Two people began dating with marriage as the goal. From the very beginning, they talked about wanting the same things. No games. No mixed signals. No pretending to be someone they weren’t. They promised honesty, transparency, and intentionality. It looked like they were building something solid.
Then, little by little, something shifted.
The phone calls weren’t returned like they used to be. Text messages became fewer and farther between. Conversations that once flowed naturally started feeling forced. The interest that had been so obvious in the beginning became difficult to read. If you’ve lived long enough, you’ve probably seen this before.
The relationship itself isn’t really the point. The real question is this: When our feelings change, does our character change too?
It’s easy to be thoughtful when everything is exciting. It’s easy to communicate when we’re emotionally invested. But what happens when our interest begins to fade? Do we still treat people with kindness and respect? Do our actions continue to reflect the values we claimed to have from the beginning?
The truth is, character has a way of introducing itself. Sooner or later, who we really are finds its way into our conversations, our decisions, and the way we treat people. We may say we’re ready for marriage, but consistency, honesty, and consideration reveal whether we’re truly living what we profess.
If you’re praying to become someone’s wife, don’t spend all your energy wondering whether God is preparing him. Ask Him what He’s preparing in you. Is He growing your patience? Your self-control? Your compassion? Your faithfulness? Galatians 5:22–23 (NLT) tells us, “But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.” That’s the kind of woman a godly man will recognize—not because she’s perfect, but because she belongs to Christ and it shows.
God knows how to bring the right people together at the right time. Our responsibility isn’t to chase the promise. It’s to become more like Jesus while we wait. The greatest preparation for marriage—or for any blessing God has planned—isn’t finding the right person. It’s allowing the Holy Spirit to shape us into the person God created us to be. When that happens, we’ll be ready not only to receive His blessings but also to steward them in a way that honors Him.
Scripture taken from the New King James Version. Copyright © 1982 by Thomas Nelson, Inc. Used by permission. All rights reserved.
Scripture quotations marked (NLT) are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright © 1996. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Wheaton, Illinois 60189. All rights reserved.
“Are You Becoming What You’re Praying For?” written by Kim Times for Sundie Morning Sistas ©2026. All rights reserved. All done to the glory of God through Jesus Christ, our Lord! SMS is dedicated to inspiring and encouraging Christian Women through the Word of God.
