There’s More to This Season Than Waiting for a Husband
Ecclesiastes 3:1 (NLT) tells us, “For everything there is a season, a time for every activity under heaven.” And yes, that includes singleness. Some of you may be thinking you’ve been single long enough, and after all these years, you’re beginning to wonder if marriage is even in God’s plans for you. I understand that. Especially when you’ve prayed, waited, watched other women get married, and you’re still waiting. But don’t become so focused on when your single season will end that you overlook what God has for you right now. Your life isn’t on hold until a husband comes along. There’s still growing to do, living to do, and a relationship with Jesus Christ that deserves your time and attention.
A lot of us have spent countless hours praying for the right man to find us, but how much time have we spent becoming the woman God wants us to be? We can get so caught up in wanting a husband that we forget about our own spiritual growth. There’s nothing wrong with desiring marriage or praying for a godly husband, but that desire shouldn’t take priority over our relationship with Heavenly Father. We need to know Him for ourselves, become grounded in His Word, and grow strong enough in our faith that whether marriage happens or not, we’re still committed to walking with Him.
Let God Deal With What’s Going On Inside
Give God your time. Give Him all of you, including those parts of your heart you’ve kept tucked away where nobody else can see them. Psalm 139:23–24 (NLT) says, “Search me, O God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. Point out anything in me that offends you, and lead me along the path of everlasting life.” That’s a prayer we ought to be willing to pray, because sometimes we don’t even recognize what’s going on inside us. There may be disappointments we’ve never dealt with, fears we haven’t acknowledged, or things we’ve held onto for years. And getting married won’t automatically fix any of that. Even the most loving husband cannot reach the places in our hearts that only God can heal. So let Him do His work. Don’t wait until you’re married to start dealing with things that need His attention today.
You’ve Got Living to Do, So Live!
I’ve heard married women say they wish they’d made better use of their single years. Not because they regret getting married, but because marriage brings responsibilities they didn’t have before. The Apostle Paul speaks to this in 1 Corinthians 7:34–35 (NLT): “His interests are divided. In the same way, a woman who is no longer married or has never been married can be devoted to the Lord and holy in body and in spirit. But a married woman has to think about her earthly responsibilities and how to please her husband. I am saying this for your benefit, not to place restrictions on you. I want you to do whatever will help you serve the Lord best, with as few distractions as possible.” Paul wasn’t saying that marriage is a bad thing. He was helping believers understand that marriage and singleness come with different responsibilities. So make good use of the opportunities you have. Serve in ministry, develop your gifts, enjoy your friendships, learn something new, and do the things God has placed on your heart. Don’t spend these years sitting around waiting for somebody to come and give your life purpose.
And one more thing. Don’t treat your relationship with God as something you’re working on just until your husband arrives. You need Him now, and you’ll need Him just as much if you get married. Keep praying if marriage is your desire, but don’t allow that desire to consume your life. There’s too much God has given you to do and too much He wants to develop in you for you to spend your days feeling like something is missing. Give Him your heart, surrender those hidden places, and let Him continue making you into the woman He wants you to be. Whether you marry someday or remain single, your life belongs to Christ. So enjoy the life He’s given you, make the most of your opportunities, and don’t waste your single season. ■
Scripture quotations marked (NLT) are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright © 1996. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Wheaton, Illinois 60189. All rights reserved.
“Don’t Waste Your Single Season”, written by Kim Times for Sundie Morning Sistas ©2026. All rights reserved. All done to the glory of God through Jesus Christ, our Lord! SMS is dedicated to inspiring and encouraging Christian Women through the Word of God.
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