Right Direction Leads to the Right Person

Psalm 119:105 (NLT):
“Your word is a lamp to guide my feet and a light for my path.”

God’s presence is a place of peace, but it’s also so much more than that. It’s a place of direction, understanding, and spiritual growth. And if we’re honest, when we’re in wait mode, believing God for the blessing of marriage, it’s easy to start thinking that because nothing seems to be happening, nothing actually is. But that’s not true. There’s so much our Heavenly Father wants to teach us about ourselves, about relationships, and about living according to His Word. Psalm 16:11 (NLT) tells us, “You will show me the way of life, granting me the joy of your presence and the pleasures of living with you forever.” God isn’t simply concerned about leading us toward marriage. He wants us to experience the joy of knowing Him, growing in Him, and discovering the wonderful purpose He has for our lives.

If we want to make wise decisions about relationships, we’ve got to be willing to walk in the right direction. And that direction must always agree with God’s Word. Romans 15:4 (NLT) reminds us, “Such things were written in the Scriptures long ago to teach us. And the Scriptures give us hope and encouragement as we wait patiently for God’s promises to be fulfilled.” Now, it’s easy to feel like we’re falling behind when we’ve been waiting for what seems like forever. We see other people getting married, starting families, and enjoying things we’ve been praying about for years. But we can’t allow somebody else’s circumstances to make us impatient with God. There’s wisdom to be gained during this season, and we don’t want to become so focused on what we’re waiting for that we miss what He’s teaching us.

The Word of God wasn’t written just for the people who came before us. It speaks to us right here, in the circumstances we’re facing today. It teaches us how to recognize godly character, how to conduct ourselves in relationships, and how to make decisions that honor our Heavenly Father. And the more we grow in our understanding of His Word, the less likely we are to allow our emotions to make decisions that wisdom would never approve. We can stop putting so much pressure on ourselves to make a relationship work when there are clear indications that something isn’t right. Sometimes we’re so determined to make that square peg fit into a round hole that we don’t want to admit it was never a good fit in the first place.

And sometimes, walking in the right direction means having the courage to acknowledge what we’ve been seeing all along. We can be so hopeful about a relationship that we begin overlooking things we would ordinarily recognize as concerns. We make excuses, convince ourselves that things will improve, and keep praying for God to change someone who hasn’t shown much interest in changing. But Sis, we have to be willing to accept the truth about what’s in front of us. A man may be handsome, charming, attentive, and know exactly what to say, but none of those things tells us whether he’s spiritually mature, responsible, or prepared for the covenant of marriage. God’s Word gives us wisdom for making decisions, and we shouldn’t set that wisdom aside simply because our hearts have become attached to someone.

That’s why direction matters so much. When we allow our feelings to lead us without considering what God has taught us, we can end up taking emotional detours that cost us more than we ever expected. Psalm 119:105 reminds us that God’s Word is a lamp for our feet and a light for our path. We may not know everything about the future, but we can learn to recognize when a relationship is drawing us away from the things we know are right. And sometimes, the guidance we’re praying for is already there in Scripture. We just don’t particularly like what obedience is going to require of us! Isaiah 30:21 (NLT) says, “Your own ears will hear him. Right behind you a voice will say, ‘This is the way you should go,’ whether to the right or to the left.” We can trust our Heavenly Father to guide us, but we must also be willing to follow the direction He’s given us.

And this waiting? It isn’t punishment. It’s an opportunity to grow spiritually, develop godly character, and become more mature in the way we think, love, and respond to others. Marriage requires much more than romantic feelings. It requires patience, forgiveness, humility, faithfulness, and a willingness to work through difficulties without abandoning the responsibilities of the covenant. These are qualities we should be developing whether marriage is in our immediate future or not. And while walking faithfully with God doesn’t guarantee that we’ll meet a particular person or marry within a certain time, it does help us become women who can recognize what is good, make sound decisions, and refuse to compromise our relationship with Christ for the sake of having someone in our lives.

So keep walking in the right direction, Sis. Keep studying God’s Word, growing in spiritual maturity, and allowing Him to correct the things in your life that need correcting. Don’t become so anxious about finding the right man that you neglect becoming the woman God has called you to be. And when someone comes along who captures your attention, take the time to get to know him. Pay attention to his character, his conduct, and the way he lives out what he professes to believe. There’s nothing wrong with wanting a wonderful marriage, but we must never forget that our greatest blessing is knowing Jesus Christ and walking in obedience to Him. That’s the direction we want our lives to take, with or without a husband.■

Scripture quotations marked (NLT) are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright © 1996. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Wheaton, Illinois 60189. All rights reserved.

“Right Direction Leads to the Right Person”, written by Kim Times, edited by Reverend Fran Mack and KLizzie for Sundie Morning Sistas ©2025.  All rights reserved. All done to the glory of God through Jesus Christ, our Lord! SMS is dedicated to inspiring and encouraging Christian Women through the Word of God.