Sometimes we think that once we become born-again believers, life should automatically fall into place. We may believe that because we pray, seek God, and desire to honor Him, the things closest to our hearts should happen in our timing.
I know many single believers have marriage at the top of their prayer list. And let’s be honest, there is nothing wrong with desiring companionship. Life can be a beautiful gift when two people choose to walk together, encourage one another, and build a life side by side. But there is something we cannot overlook: it takes two people moving in the same direction for a relationship to thrive.
Amos 3:3 (NLT) asks, “Can two people walk together without agreeing on the direction?” That question is not just about walking together physically. It speaks to alignment—where you are going, what you believe, and what guides your decisions.
Because what happens when two people are walking together but heading in different directions?
Think about it. Two people can love each other deeply. They can enjoy each other’s company, laugh together, and have amazing chemistry. But what happens when one person is building a life centered around God, while the other person is building a life centered around themselves? What happens when one person sees marriage as a covenant before God, while the other sees it simply as a relationship that should make them happy?
Eventually, the differences that seemed small in the beginning begin to show up in the decisions that matter most—how you handle conflict, finances, family, priorities, faith, and the direction of your future.
A house cannot stand strong when the foundation is divided. And neither can a relationship.
Relationships can be that way. Two people can have good intentions, but if they are not following the same direction, eventually the difference in their foundation will be revealed.
And even when two people are walking in the same direction, there will still be moments where humility is required. No two people will agree on everything. No relationship will be without misunderstandings, hurt feelings, or moments that require grace.
Pride has a way of creating distance between two people, while humility opens the door for restoration. Relationships cannot thrive when we are more focused on being right than being reconciled. Both people must be willing to look at their own hearts, take responsibility for their actions, extend forgiveness, and pursue peace.
Philippians 2:3-4 (NLT) tells us, “Don’t be selfish; don’t try to impress others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourselves. Don’t look out only for your own interests, but take an interest in others, too.”
God desires us to live in harmony with one another, but that harmony requires both people to surrender their pride and walk in humility.
This is why preparing for marriage begins long before we meet someone. It begins with allowing God to prepare our hearts. Because the strongest relationships are not built by two people trying to complete each other; they are built by two people who are already rooted in Christ and willing to walk together in the direction He is leading.
Before we ask God to send us someone to walk beside us, we must ask Him to make sure we are walking with Him.■
Scripture quotations marked (NLT) are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright © 1996. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Wheaton, Illinois 60189. All rights reserved.
“Walking Together Begins with Walking with God”, written by Kim Times for Sundie Morning Sistas ©2026. All rights reserved. All done to the glory of God through Jesus Christ, our Lord! SMS is dedicated to inspiring and encouraging Christian Women through the Word of God.
